Why We Hate

John Ridley takes a look at our bigotry and asks why it is that it’s so easy to hate one another.

By John Ridley

Semantics, maybe, but for the sake of discussion, let’s separate isms -- racism, sexism, anti-Semitism, and such -- from bigotry. Isms being the most antagonistic manifestation of prejudice: cross burnings and lynchings, bashing and swastikas scrawled across walls. Comparatively, bigotry is more subtle. Often insidious. It’s the service at a restaurant or store that’s so slow in coming, you leave before it arrives. Bigotry is the guy who cuts in front of you at Starbucks because you don’t even register to him. Bigotry is our personal assumptions and the softly spoken question: “Why do those people always [fill in the blank]?” Never mind that our leaders come from every race and background, we still have trouble getting along with the “other” next door. Why? Why do we cling to bigotry?

Because bigotry, plainly, is convenient. It is a near-effortless way to both elevate one’s stature and make a pity grab in this culture of victims that we have become. It is an all-purpose tool -- a sword and a shield; we dig the heft of it in our hand as we give a chop to “those people” for being too loud or too urban or too not like us. It’s so much easier to swing our hate than it is to understand others.

Similarly, bigotry -- or the reflexive, defensive accusation of bigotry -- is a prime source of instant sympathy from others within our group. A jutted finger and the charge of prejudice, along with a big show of playing the vic, make for a call to rise up and defend the injured, even when the wound is imaginary. How many so-called “leaders” have made bank by lying in wait to whip up a Day of Outrage over every innocent though unfortunate remark?

And the worst of it is that for every Jeremiah Wright who opens his piehole and cuts loose with some inane invective, there’s an educated and seemingly enlightened public figure using bigotry expertly. Geraldine Ferraro had no problem claiming Barack Obama had ascended solely because of the color of his skin. When her reasoning, or lack thereof, was openly challenged, Ferraro shot back: “They’re attacking me because I’m white.” If only medals were awarded in Beijing ‘08 for dexterous use of prejudice.

And so we remain caught up in questions of bigotry: Is the media more biased against race or gender? Who’s got a harder time getting the white male vote, and why won’t Hispanics cast their ballots for the brother man? Forget about the economy, Iraq, or health care. Bigotry remains where it’s at. An ego stroke, a cloak for victims, and a French tickler for the media. One mind-set does all that. It’s little wonder we can’t shed ourselves of bigotry. Why toss out something when it works so well?